The meemaw effect

This isn’t a real post but I just wanted to share.  I don’t usually get into family details on my blog but I’m making an exception today.

The last decade has been tough for Victor’s meemaw.  Her husband (and Victor’s idol) died, then her daughter died, she lost much of her sight, and she realized she was going to lose the tiny garage apartment she was living in near Dallas.  Last week Victor and I were able to get her a pretty, one-bedroom apartment down the street from us, furnish it and replace her broken appliances, and move her where she’ll be safe and secure and closer to family.  When she saw the apartment she cried because she told us she never thought she’d ever live anywhere so nice.

We are so incredibly lucky to be able to do this for her, and it would not have been possible without you.  In the last few years if you read this blog, or advertised on it, or visited the sponsors, or bought my book, or purchased something from my shop you’ve helped me.  You helped me to be someone I never thought I could be.  You helped me have faith in myself.  You helped me help other people who then helped others.  I know that everything in life moves in ripples and that we affect each other all of the time, but I want you to know that I can see it so clearly today.  You’ve helped me.  I can never thank you enough for the changes you’ve made in so many people’s lives, but I can thank you for the wonderful things you’ve brought to mine.  Thank you.  There aren’t words big enough to say it as strongly as you deserve to hear it.

Never doubt that you make a difference…one so much larger than you could ever know.

PS. In a perfect world I would thank you with a sweet picture of meemaw right here, but I can’t find a good one so instead I’m using this:

He might also be slow-dancing with an invisible lizard. Hard to tell with that cat.

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  1. Okay…now I REALLY love my ‘be nice or I will stab you’ notebook.

    This is lovely. I’m so happy you could do this for your family.

  2. What an awesome post. Thank you for delving into the personal and letting us in on this amazing occurrence. 🙂

  3. All of this – further proof you are an awesome person. Thank you for being you.

  4. I’m so glad you could do this for your Gran!! You have had such a positive effect on so many people, both through laughter and support – I’m also glad you receive some thing in return from everything you give!! Yin yang, baby! Or is that ying, yang?

  5. This made my day. And my daughter’s (who ended up with the calendar and the mug – two of her favourite Christmas presents)!

  6. You’ve helped a lot of people and you’ve definitely helped me help people who live in fear. THANK YOU!

  7. Need to finally buy the Copernicus t-shirt I have been coveting so I can help more.

  8. Aww, that’s amazing. I’m so happy for her, and y’all.

    And Hunter’s a cat, he might be doing both at the same time.

  9. I’m so glad you were able to help, Jenny. Being able to help family when they are in need is a good feeling 🙂 I tell everyone that will listen about your blog because you make my day even when others can’t. Thank you <3

  10. I think this is one of the nicest blog posts I have ever read. You are a lovely human being and I wish Victor’s Meemaw health, wealth and happiness in her new home 🙂

  11. i purchased your book when it came out…( actual pre-ordered…) then got a back up for my kindle after noticing on a trip i didnt bring my book with me… i just purchased 5 more books for friends for Christmas… every single one has called and said that they loved it one even said that it was better than chelsea handlers books… we love you!!!

  12. Thank you for writing and for all of the times you’ve reminded up that depression lies. I think I would have more scars on my legs if it weren’t for you.

  13. I don’t think it’s me you should be thanking–it’s that wacky cast of characters you’ve got living there with ya…and of course, your perspective on all of it. I think the metal chicken should get the most credit, though. She’s definitely underrated.

  14. As a meemaw myself, I can’t tell you how proud this made me of you and Victor. Consider yourselves hugged and kissed by all the meemaws out there. (And maybe we’re also spitting on a hanky and wiping off your chin a little bit too. But that’s what meemaw do.) Love you.

  15. Buying my second copy of your book tonight (and my first copy of Allie’s book too). Maybe you can buy Meemaw something for her apartment and tell her it’s from me 🙂

  16. This made me all teary- I’m so happy that meemaw gets to have some joy and peace. Thank YOU for sharing this and letting us all feel like a part of something so wonderful! Love to all of you!

  17. Now I love your book even more. Thank you for making me laugh, and inspiring me to be myself, which is worth more than you’ll ever know.

  18. Hell yeah! Well done! And as I always say, “glad to be of service.” xo

    Hunter is really burning up the floor with that invisible lizard samba he’s doing! 😉

  19. You are welcome. I feel that you have brought much to my life with your witty writing and your insight on depression and anxiety. Because of you I have become a better person and better understand those with depression and anxiety.
    So thank you!

  20. Awwww, this made me smile. I come here all the time but never comment. The comments here are so damn funny, you have some funny ass commenters, by the way.

  21. Please please please say you are gonna write another book for all of us to buy!!!

    BTW, your book is my favorite! I have read it 4 times and laugh til I cry when I read about the puppet your dad made! Every. Time.


  22. this brought tears to my eyes because my Nana passed away on Christmas Day. I’m so glad to see you all are helping make his Meemaw’s life better. I have personally bought 3 of your books 🙂

  23. This is so great. I happy for you. I’m happy for your meemaw. I’m all teary.

  24. You’ve helped so many people, with your blog and your book! Glad it’s rippling back to you Jenny!

  25. Thank you! Thank you for your book, which I find every possible reason to gift friends with. And thank you for sharing all you do! Big smooches to y’all! Gentle hugs to meemaw!

  26. Thank you for everything you’ve done for all of us Jenny, you have been such an inspiration at just being human.

  27. You have the uncanny ability to make me smile one minute and cry the next. You have touched so many people with your thoughts of honestly and grace…Thank You for being you.

  28. Buying your book and visiting this site are completely selfish on my part, because you make me laugh and think and sometimes cry. Like this post. I’m so glad that you were able to help Victor’s meemaw.

  29. I am always glad to contribute to making a meemaw’s life better. Especially if the reward is a picture of Hunter S. Thomcat.

  30. This is what life is about huh? You and Victor are beautiful, real people. Meemaw is a treasure and you’re treating her as one. Hearts to you x

  31. That is lovely. I’m usually of the belief that if you do something nice for someone and more than you and if absolutely necessary the person it was done for know, you are doing it for the wrong reason. Grouchy Yankees owner George Steinbrenner taught us that. However, there are exceptions. This is one of them, because you telling us is letting us share in the joy and a teensy bit of the credit. Someone else can have my share of the latter, it makes me uncomfortable, but I’ll take all the joy I can get.
    Does Meemaw desire anything else? I would love to send her something or contribute to getting her something for her new digs. Please keep us updated and don’t be “one of those people” who won’t ask. Don’t hog the joy. Nobody likes a joyhogger. Seriously, it gives you acne.

  32. How lovely. I loved your book, and recommend it to everyone who asks for a book recommendation. Even though I’m not “allowed,” to read it in bed anymore, because my giggling shakes the bed and keeps my husband awake. :/

  33. Glad to have helped (bought your book TWICE!) and even happier to be part of all this.

    You’d think a smart cat like that would pretend to play an invisible piano that’s the right size for him. Or perhaps he’s just after the awww factor.

  34. What a lovely post. I just finished your amazing book this morning. I laughed so hard at certain parts that I read them aloud to my husband. And laughed so hard again that I could barely speak. You have given a wonderful gift to your readers. It’s only fair you get something in return. I mean, I know you got paid, but, well, you know what I mean 🙂

  35. Taking your success and doing something kind for someone else just goes to show that you deserve everything you have accomplished. Wishing you, your family, and MeeMaw a happy, healthy New Year!

  36. Aww. This made me happy. My own grandma (who I called Meemaw) passed away in 2011. She lived with us for a year after my grandpa died, then luved with her son, then we moved her into a little senior apartment her last year of life. She got to live the high life for awhile. 🙂

    I’m so glad you could do this for her. Hurray for Meemaws!

  37. Hi

    Just poped in to say hallo from Norway. Your fantastic blog is a big insperation and comfort when
    my own blogpost don´t get in as they should. Writting-stop can happen to every writer right?
    Even blody Stephen King I bet;)

    Keep those good posts comming and keep faith in the true and only matter. The Love!

    Ta da!


  38. And thank you helping us, Jenny. The world would be better and weirder with more people like you in it.

  39. Yay! I hope your meemaw will be very happy living near you – and maybe she’ll play a role in the extraordinary adventures of your everyday life!

    Also, now I’m even more glad I gave your book to my friend as a Christmas present.

  40. Just wonderful. Thank you for being you, and sharing you, and then sharing things like this with us.

  41. It’s you, not us — except for the fact that we appreciate your humor and honesty. <3 this!

  42. Jenny,
    It is symbiotic – which is not robotic symbols – you help us all every day, especially those of us more broken than others.
    Many thanks for all the times you have helped me move forward, and all the times you have made me laugh out loud when I did not think there was a laugh left in me.

    And thanks for this wonderful post.

  43. I’m so glad you were able to help your meemaw! Thank YOU for writing a book that makes me laugh out loud and forget my troubles for awhile.

  44. Thank you Jenny. I always look forward to your posts. They make me happy. This was especially terrific. And – now you given me a great excuse to buy more of your stuff! Love you.

  45. Now I don’t feel so dopey for accidentally buying three copies of your book.

  46. You’re such a good person with a wonderful heart. But don’t tell anyone I said so. Victor too…..

  47. Aww! You are so welcome!! You are such an inspiration to me. You are so brave in posting about everything, good, bad, funny, serious. I envy you that strength to put it all out there for the world to see. Wish we could hang out some time and have a laugh, because, truly, our lives are often stranger than fiction!!

  48. I’m not one who comments, but I read your blog and check your twitter feed, bought your book and went to a book signing and just wanted to say…thank YOU!

  49. That is fantastic news and such a wonderful thing for your and Victor to do.

    One question – does MeeMaw know exactly what’s been funding her new life of luxury?

  50. I’m so glad Meemaw is happy in her new home. Family can do amazing things for each other. Just like strangers can do amazing things for each other with tiny gestures. They add up.

  51. DEFINITELY an invisible lizard.
    My husband bought your book for me! I was so happy I CRIED. 8D

  52. Jenny – make no mistake. Your ability to make me laugh out loud is worth millions. I’m listening to your book for the 3rd time and you still crack me up. To be thanked by you seems strange. I’m honored to have been any part of your ability to help others.

  53. You send so much good out into the world. I am re-reading your book on am 11 hour car trip, it has brought me more happiness than it cost so I am happy it helped Meemaw.

  54. Not fair. You’re making me cry. You – yes, YOU, Jenny Lawson, Bloggess Extraodinaire, YOU give so much to the world with your hilarious, wonderful, open, sharing, loving posts. As a fairly long-time reader, and purchaser of the kindle version and the audio of your book (and waiting with bated breath for #2!), thank YOU. And, happy to help even that tiny bit.


  55. Thank you for doing something good for someone else, and for sharing it with us. I hope Meemaw settles in and is happy for a long time. (Thanks also too Mr. Thomcat for the gift of his music from the invisible piano. I hear Bach. Talented cat!)

  56. If you think you’re too small to make a difference, you’ve never been in bed with a mosquito.

  57. Isn’t it magical that you can totally be yourself through you blogs, book, and merchandise and be accepted to the extent that you can support your family financially! I am so happy for you that you took a risk despite your issues & made the world laugh with your quirky self. Congrats on bringing joy to Meemaw – I know your daughter will love having her nearby.

  58. I LOVE this blog and I love you because you often bring a smile to my face when I need it most.

  59. You are most welcome. It is great to be able to help someone AND get cool shit. The ultimate win-win. Conga Rats to meemaw.

  60. That, my friend, is as lovely a thank-you note as they come.

    You have caused others much happiness. If that has caused others to want to pay you money, which caused you to have the cash to set up Victor’s meemaw in style, then good. That’s exactly how the world should work.

  61. I bought your book for ten of my closest girlfriends for Christmas gifts. It wasn’t a whole lot in the grand scheme of things, but it’s great to know that in return for all the laughter and wisdom you’ve given me–and now, my friends– I could help a little bit. But–you did all the heavy lifting with your blog and book! So kudos to you for having the drive to keep at the computer when many would have given up.

    I am SO happy that you could do that for Victor’s meemaw, and I know she’s got to be ecstatic to be so close to you both!

  62. Now I feel even better about buying your book! I LOVED it by the way. Amazing.

  63. You receive what you give. Clearly you’re as lovely a person as you seem to be. I’m so happy that we, your readers, have been able to be as much a help to you as you’ve been to so many others. <3

  64. You are amazing. I am so happy you could do that for her. I’ve bought four books so far, and am so glad if a tiny bit of that went to help.

  65. Thanks for that tiny peek into your family life. But especially thank you for reminding us all that every act affects others…sometimes in ways we could never imagine.

  66. That is the sweetest thank you note. It brought tears to my eyes. You’ve brought so much to my life and it’s my pleasure to help you, your family and especially your hubby’s meemaw. Hugs and love. 🙂

  67. Jenny and Victor FTW!!! This actually choked me up a bit. It is wonderful to see the ripple effect in action. Welcome home, Meemaw!

  68. I just bought your book and gave it to someone else, so not only did I participate in the meemaw effect, I also helped a woman who has no sense of humor and really needed the education!!

  69. You’ve created an amazing community of readers on this site. We should all be proud of the fact that everyone here is so supportive of one another. I’m glad to be a part of this incredible group of people.

  70. Thank you for being you! I got your book not long after my boyfriend of 17 years died. It was one of the saddest times of my life. I could not even begin to tell you how depressed I felt! I stayed up reading your book till 3am and actually laughing out loud!

  71. There is nothing better than being fortunate enough to be able to help make a difference in someone else’s life. You did that on your own by having the courage to put yourself out there for the rest of us to enjoy. You make a difference in so many peoples lives by making us smile. Thank you.

  72. Yay, Meemaw! That’s wonderful. I bought your book and I would buy it again and again! I can’t wait for your next one!

  73. I’ve bought so much of your stuff…I wish I could buy more! Give Meemaw a hug from me & my son!!

  74. sorry,my contacts are causing my eyes to water a bit…yeah, that’s the excuse I’m gonna stick with.

    So glad you could do this, and share some of the goodness in the world. <3

  75. Your so welcome! Everything is connected and your book has brought me much joy!
    Peace and love to you and yours!

  76. Yea, you are welcome, but I assure you I’m still ahead . . . the laughter you have brought to me has been priceless . . . . 🙂

  77. Wow. Thank you for the accolades. However, you are just as much to thank for helping Victor’s Meemaw. Between your creativity and compassion for others, you made it possible, too. So many other people might not have chosen to do what you’ve done.

  78. That was beautiful. It brought tears to my eyes. God Bless you Jenny. You have given us the gift of laughter. God Bless meemaw.

  79. Jenny,
    I truly believe that what goes around, comes around. You put good out there and it comes back to you. I love that you were able to do this for Victor’s Meemaw. I love, that in our own way, we get to be a part of it too.

  80. You are an amazing person with an amazing family. Thank you for sharing your life and smiles with us and what an awesome way to start the New Year!

  81. I am so glad that my small purchase made a contribution to Meemaw’s happiness. You give us so much, Jenny, that it’s a wonderful thing that we readers can give back.

  82. Loveliness. Exactly the way that life is meant to be — full of connection and community and grace. Please, PLEASE tell me that you got Meemaw her own (mini?) Beyonce — oh, wait, never mind. In my head, you did. ; )

  83. You have allowed our collective purpose to bring more good into the world. And validated all my internet-time! Thank you.

  84. WOW! This is so cool to read! Your book just got here today along with Allie’s and another one I got for xmas. I couldn’t decide which one to read first. I think this just helped me decide! Hugs to your Meemaw!

  85. So wonderful you can help your Meemaw! My mother moved in with me just this past year and I could write a book about our bantering! Luckily, mom has a great sense of humor and we get along quite well. Best to you and Victor and Meemaw. And Thomcat too!

  86. I was on of the many who pre ordered your book. Read it front to back a billion times, I loved it so much. Then I passed it to my friend, who was struggling with life, in hope she could find a hillarious escape. And she did. She would call and tell me of how strangers were staring her down at McD’s because she was laughing so hard over taxidermy tales and giant metal chickens. It truly helped her through a very difficult time. Then her boys destroyed my book. The book that had given us both so much joy took a bit of a dip into our local pool. She was mortified. Then, she apparently went above and beyond her friendship duties and contacted you, in hopes of scoring/buying an autographed copy to replace it. Honestly, she didn’t expect anything to come of it, but figured it was worth shot. Not only did she get a response, but she also was sent an autographed book plate to put in my new copy…. drenched in glitter!! Now, normally, I am so anti-glitter. However, Blogess glitter? I am so ok with that! I have been following your blog for about 5 years now. Before the Zazzle awesomeness, Beyonce, and attempting to St. James. You’re Mental Health awareness posts have spoke to my soul and pulled me out of the depths of despair more times than I would like to admit. For those reasons and so many more, this bookplate will be treasured always. So, thank YOU, Jenny. Thank you for being so fucking awesome. You deserve all those wonderful things. May there he many more to come. ?

  87. You helped us!!!! Your sharing tales of anxiety and depression has let so many od us know there are probably NO “normal” people out there. I’ve bought your book for several women I love dearly. When you write the next one I’ll buy that one too.

  88. Well, you helped me today, because I was reading your book, and I laughed so hard I cried. Who doesn’t need that? Hugs.

  89. You’re welcome. It was my pleasure, believe me. I kept waking up my girlfriend because I was snorting with laughter while I read your book. And I’m glad Meemaw is safe and comfortable. Isn’t it great when things are a win-win?

  90. Jenny,
    Never doubt the difference you have made in the lives of others. For me personally, your book helped me learn to laugh at life and myself again. So, whatever small contribution my buying the book (twice!) made, please know that your contribution to others is far greater! THANK YOU!!

  91. Blessings work both ways. You have made a difference in my life too. I’m glad you can spread the love to someone who deserves it so much.

  92. Its so awesome to see how the circle goes round. Your honesty, humour and relatability is what keeps people coming back for more. I’m so glad that you were able to help Meemaw. Now what she needs is a wee animal to keep her company. 😉

  93. Aww. You made me tear up a little. I am very glad you were able to help out meemaw. That is special. Thanks for sharing and thanks for you sweet words. Extra thanks for the laughs you have given me.

  94. My calendar came in today’s mail – perfect timing. Thank you for sharing your lives with us.

  95. Thank you for the amazing book. And that it can help your family makes it even better. Have a great 2014!

  96. Wait. What. That’s it? I was waiting for the sarcasm at the end. Or at least the bad joke or a reference to Beyonce. There are actual tears in my eyes. Awww, Jenny. We love you too.

  97. Having just moved my grandmother from a retirement center into a nursing home just today – and it’s the home she WANTS to be in because she knows probably 3/4 of the people there and their genealogies to boot – I’m so glad that someone else’s meemaw is getting what they need/want. So glad we can do a little sumpin’ fer ya. And that’s as sappy as I can be, too.

  98. What a great thing. It makes me feel better about the internet and what it does when I know it makes things like this happen for your Meemaw. I like everything about this for all of you.

  99. Until I got to the part about living in Dallas, I thought Meemaw was your cat. Sorry, we don’t generally use that term in snow-covered New England.

  100. I would really appreciate if you could help me to put my “homeless” cat into her own nice warm winter shelter. Just please share the link to “gofundme” and let your kind readers and followers do the rest. It is so bitter cold here this winter and I hated to put poor Jennie out – but I also have to breathe and try to be healthy. Just so you know, I LOVE your book, your site and just can’t wait for your next book! I have both the Kindle version and the Audible version of your book and listen to the audible any time I’m feeling down because you always make me laugh and give me perspective. Whatever you choose to do, thanks for the funniest book I think I have ever or will ever read!!
    Blessings to you and yours!

    (I don’t do gofundme because I can’t track it, but I sent you an amazon card for the last amount you need. You might consider taking her to a no-kill shelter instead though. Just a suggestion. Cats that old often don’t do well outside in the cold. Maybe you could see if someone here could take her. ~ Jenny)

  101. You’ve inspired us too Miss Jenny. It’s nice to know there are other people that struggle with mental illness, pivot tables, those awkward Human Resources talks, and that do nice things for Meemaws. Meemaws are the best!

  102. What wonderful news. I’m so happy Meemaw is happy! I’m also glad to have helped in a teeny tiny way, since just reading your blog or your book (for the umpteenth time) is so helpful for me. Merry 2014!

  103. Seriously: it feels like you are my friend. Thank you for sharing this above all things. You give me hope, inspiration and creative juice. Thank you!

  104. I am glad to be a small part of helping someone else’s meemaw. Thank you for all you do for us and others. ?

  105. I love how inter-connected we are with other people. It’s been my privilege to buy your book and advertise on your page. I have laughed and cried with you over the years and shared you with many of my friends, who were as thankful as I am to have found you. Keep ripplin’ Sister.

  106. Oh man, that’s like bonus Christmas to me! Love this blog and your stories (and your family, by proxy), so visiting and buying makes me happy!

    Btw, can we have a new book now?
    How about now?

  107. I say we are the lucky ones, your blog and your book are friends of mine. I always feel lifted from the dull drums when I visit here. You are a blessing and that goodness is just being cycled around you, you deserve to have means to do the good works like you just did. We love you!

  108. Jenny,
    You made my day at the Texas Women’s Conference! I missed one of my sessions to stand in line for two autographed copies. After starting to read the book I appreciate and like you more knowing how you do’nt do well with public speaking. You had me hooked with your “disclaimer” before your talk and no I never thought you had a wardrobe malfunction or a third nipple.

    You will be excited to know one of my autographed copies was stolen from my uncle’s doorstep in San Francisco before he picked it up so I had to by a third copy and send it. Someone else in San Francisco is enjoying your book! Btw, we think you are F-ing Hilarious and are convinced we are related. Happy New Year! Keep posting and keep writing!!

  109. So glad that you’re in the position to be able to help Victor’s MeeMaw. One of my greatest wishes is to have the financial freedom to help others without hesitation. I’d love to do that. You CAN do that. So happy for you Jenny.

  110. Wonderful! I’m so grateful for all the laughs that you’ve provided! Sending {{hugs}} for your family & your Meemaw.

  111. Thanks for sharing so much of yourself. I bought your book twice and can’t wait for the next one. Meemaws are awesome; my grandma passed away in November. I love to see people appreciating their grandparents. You rock!

  112. I think Hunter S. Thomcat is playing dinosaurs and he’s the T-Rex.
    Your book has brought me many hours of ridiculous, helpless laughter, and knowing that there are others out there with my oddball off-the-wall sense of humor. I’d say it was more than a good trade.

  113. Every now and again, I’m reminded of a poem by the Sufi poet Rumi:

    If you’ve opened your loving to God’s loving,
    You’re helping people you don’t know,
    And have never seen.
    Is what I say true? Say “YES!” quickly,
    If you know, if you have known it
    From before the beginning of the universe.

  114. Awhhhh…ya got me all vhaklempt. Such a stupendous thing you did for MeeMaw. May she be well & at peace in her new digs. Best helping angel story I’ve heard in a while – you very cool lady.

  115. That’s so great. Thanks for sharing and for all the joy you bring to us.

  116. That’s awesome. You’re an amazing writer, an incredible personality, and almost like a friend to many of us (I speak for myself and my friends mainly, but I assume nearly everyone else thinks so!). It’s nice to know how much you’ve helped me can be unknowingly reciprocated! What you and Victor did was selfless and kind–thank you for sharing your story!

  117. Very satisfying to know that, unlike many celebrities, you are cognizant of the difference fans make in your life. So happy for your meemaw. 🙂

  118. So very glad Victor’s Meemaw is secure and happy. Housing insecurity is the worst feeling in the world: scary and hard. So glad you guys did this. 🙂 Welcome home, Meemaw!

  119. I’m so glad I bought your book! Your book brought so much joy that I can’t wait for the next!

  120. Congratulations to Meemaw! This makes me feel that the copies of your book I purchased for myself and as gifts not only improved my life and the lives of those who I gifted them to but also, in a tiny way, Victor’s Meemaw!

  121. You are so awesome! I love that you shared this because sometimes it is hard for people to admit that their work has enabled them to do something they never dreamed of doing. Yes your readers helped you., but it started with you being brave and nothing ripples more than that.

  122. I just had to move my parents into an assisted living facility, not too far away from me, and I know of which you speak. Being able to be close to family and help take care of them is a great gift. And it also makes you want to stab yourself, so win-win. I love you.

  123. Aw, Jenny. I’m so glad Meemaw has her prettiest place ever.
    Hugs all around. <3

  124. This brought tears to my eyes. You have also brought amazing changes to my life. I am so much more comfortable in my own skin now that I have found my tribe.

  125. That is so wonderful, and makes me glad that I bought your audio book and a hardcover! I’m so glad you were able to do such a wonderful thing for Victor’s meemaw. Love love love!

  126. Yay Meemaw!! And as an added bonus, you are teaching your daughter that this is how we treat our elders, so hopefully when you are old and decrepit she will step up and take care of you (at least that’s what I told mine when we had to rearrange our lives to take care of their grandparents).

  127. I love it when people with a conscience have access to money. I’m glad you’ve helped Miemaw. I’m glad money is coming to you because I know you are using it wisely. You deserve it.

  128. Hooray for you and Meemaw and Victor AND the cat.

    Now I have a great excuse to buy a mug.


  129. You are a huge success and recognized for your amazing talent and I got to read a hilarious, almost peed in my pants a few times and now I feel like we ‘re friends even though we’ve never met, kinda thing. It’s a win win situation all around.

  130. I haven’t read anything funny from a woman since Molly Ivins shuffled but I’m gonna give you a shot.

    I was lecturing my 7-year old friend Jonathan about using power wisely.

    “Power is the ability to make things happen or not happen,” I said.

    “Not happen,” he said.

    Love that kid.

  131. That’s fantastic! And I’m especially excited that Victor’s grandma goes by Meemaw, like mine did. Extra points for that.

    Jenny, you just rock in every way possible. I have much cyber love for you and your family. Enjoy having Meemaw nearby!

  132. Discovering your blog this year has brought me a lot of joy. I’ve had a tough few months and reading your blog and book have brought me a lot of laughter and perspective. You are wonderful and I’m so appreciative that you not only exist but put part of yourself out there on the inter-webs. Keep doing what you’re doing!

  133. Welcome to the wide, wonderful, wacky, wistful world of caretaking. Even if meemaw is down the block, you and Victor are now in charge. Good for you. And good for your daughter. This is a great and powerful gift.

    When we take care of our elders, we get to right wrongs we may have done, we get to make sure the elder has dignity and pride intact. We get to insure that the slow closure of a life is one that can be shared and treasured.

    There will be days you wonder why you do this….but let me assure you, the gift is in the giving, not the receiving. From strength to strength to you all. Truly.

  134. You are welcome. (Of course you are the one who really paid it forward.) Here is to many happy years for Meemaw in her new digs.

  135. I know that you don’t do it often, but I have to say that I like the softer, personal side of you a lot. You are blessed and using that good fortune to do good things is admirable. Blessings to you and your meemaw 🙂

  136. You can tell what kind of person someone is by the way they treat their family. You and Victor are obviously wonderful. What a blessing to still have Meemaw in your lives and to be able to make her life better.

  137. Jenny, you are a really amazing person. Thank you for this blog post, which I took to heart. I’ve needed to hear that I make a difference, though I didn’t know until I read what you wrote that I needed to hear it. Really, thank you.

  138. The best feeling in the world is knowing that you have helped someone. It makes those awful voices that tell you you are worthless retreat for just a littl bit, and on some days, that is enough. (Seriously, at first the iPad typed TNT is enough…I will leave it to you to decide which is appropriate.)

  139. I’m a bit puzzled by this entry. First and foremost: As you’ve written here and in your book, Victor’s family is a wealthy one and his income surpasses yours, even after the publishing of your book. So why has his meemaw been living in a tiny garage apartment all these years? Secondly (and relatedly), why has the income from YOUR blog ads/book sales, etc., now suddenly enabled Victor’s meemaw to live in a nicer place? Why weren’t both Victor and his side of the family taking care of their relation to begin with?

    (She was living on the same block with her daughter, who just died of cancer a few months ago. She lived in the garage apartment behind her son on that same block, but he’s now moving after 20 years to be closer to his children and grandchildren who’ve now all moved away. Her life was ideal and lovely when she lived there with her husband and with lots and lots of family on her block to visit and care for her, but suddenly everyone she knows is moving away or has died. Victor’s parents are near us, so they can help with errands and doctor’s visits, but they’ve both been retired and on set incomes for many years so Victor and I are lucky enough to be the ones best able to take financially care of meemaw now. Victor makes good money and we have a lovely life, but because I’ve been so blessed to also have my income we have extra money to take care of another household altogether. We’d make it work if I wasn’t making money, but we wouldn’t have been able to so easily give her new furniture, and a new start, and buy her a safe place right near us. Not having to worry about where that money would come from is a great gift and one that I’ve never had in my life, and one that so few people have. We’re incredibly lucky to be able to help meemaw and to pay her back for all she’s done for Victor as a child, and by extension, us. ~ Jenny)

  140. Wow, that really is something. Being able to do that for a loved one is so special. I’m glad you made it Jenny and I’m very glad for Meemaw.

  141. You gotta warn us when you’re going to make us cry like that… blubber like an idiot really..ruined my mascara …

  142. Hey. Do NOT ever feel guilty or regret over making money off of your site. You are not providing charity. You are providing a service. What form that service takes differs from person to person….but it’s still something people are willing to pay for. And maybe that sounds vulgar and mercenary. Maybe this is something you’d prefer to ignore or pretend doesn’t exist. But you’re successful, and hopefully, many other furiously happy bloggers will follow in your footsteps, strewing happy and love and hope everywhere.

  143. thank you so much for saying this. I am having a hard time right now and what you said made me feel good. I love reading this blog and if I need a pick me up during the day, I grab your book and open to a random page and just read- and of course always laugh. I gave your book to 8 people so far and all of them loved it as much as me (some even bought some for gifts this Christmas).
    So thank you too

  144. you shine the light, we read by it.

    your laughter spreads to the masses.

    thank YOU!

  145. well, shit. you made me cry. i happily bought your hardcopy first edition book and would do it again in a heartbeat. my mom is my boys’ MeeMaw, too, by the way. love from AK.

  146. “Ripple in still water, when there is no pebble tossed, no wind to blow.” This is how, just by being we all impact one another. Sometimes you don’t have to do anything. Just being there is what counts. “Ripple” is a Garcia/Hunter tune that rang true as soon as you said ripple in your post. We all touch each other and in a lot of ways we don’t even know it. Congrats on getting her out of the DFW area.

  147. This is so beautiful. It’s so nice to hear that you were able to help her and it’s also nice to see someone as successful as you show appreciation. You clearly deserve all of your successes although I already knew that before this post. Much love from Germany.

  148. That was totally a real post. I’m so glad for you, Victor, and Meemaw. You have touched so many people, Jenny. Can I call youJenny?

  149. You guys done good. You have impacted on Meemaw’s life in such a beautiful way, I can’t even begin to tell you! Excellent post, post holidays!

  150. Jenny; you’re so incredibly lucky to have a family member – even if it is a grandmother in law – who loves you appreciates you, and is grateful for whatever you do for her. Cherish her, take care of her and know that you deserve her love.
    You should know also that your book and your blog also bring happiness, laughter, and joy to others that also share it, and it helps all the goodwill and happiness make its way around the globe.
    It may seem at times that your works are merely a trivial website and a coffee table book, but it’ so much more than that.
    What you have done is distil wisdom, humour, advice, and your personal narrative down to a blog and a book, both of which provide inspiration to many. You and all your family, including Victor’s Mewaw deserve all the love, appreciation and good fortune you have, you’ve worked for it and you’ve earned it, even if you think you haven’t, and don’t forget it!

  151. That’s amazing. I hope to one day have some type of buying power with my writing as well. It’s wonderful to see someone making things happen for herself by doing what she loves. Glad to be a part of it. <3

  152. That’s awesome! My father lives in an in law apartment in my basement. It can be challenging because he is a pain, but I think it is really important to look after the older folk.
    I never buy books, i always get them from the library. I made an exception awhile back and bought yours. I was happy back then because it is a great book. I am even happier now to have bought it. Meemaw is a lucky lady!

  153. That’s awesome!! I’m glad you were able to do something nice especially when she clearly needed a smile.

  154. Lovely Jenny! And Hailey, (who like my own daughter will grow up with her grandmother close by) will have a special bond with her MeeMaw and get to see first hand how helping others, especially family, extends out in so many. Hugs all around!!

  155. Thank you for sharing this with all of us as a reminder of all the good things that happen. You rock Jenny!

  156. How wonderful that you were able to do this! Without knowing it, you have helped me also and for that I thank you!

    P.S. I like to think that Hunter is slow dancing with a lizard.

  157. This is so wonderful! I’m so happy for you all. You have helped so many of us to know that we’re not alone and I am so glad that this has come full circle to help you and your family.

  158. I’m so happy for Meemaw! So many older people end up in public Meemaw Shelters and alot of those places are so bad they are criminal. They claim they are no-kill but statistics and news reports would say otherwise.
    Hunter S. Thomcat could get himself a vest and be Meemaw’s official service animal. (you would have to lock up her drugs of course; I’ve read your posts about his past problems) Win-win.

  159. You are most welcome Jenny.

    I needed to hear this today. My world feels like it is falling apart. But I suppose that my world is a little bigger than I thought and that this extended bit here is actually coming together rather than falling apart. That makes me feel a tiny little bit better about life (and tiny bits really matter at the moment).

    Thank you for sharing.

  160. Glad your book is so good I have to buy it as gifts….congrats to meemaw, is that a Nickname only found in Tx? I’m a native dallasite whose lived all over and feel you only hear it in Texas!

  161. Kindness is easy, and we could all use a little more of it. Give it away freely, and it’ll always come back. Thanks for always inspiring us to be more kind.

  162. Thank you for sharing this personal news to tell us how grateful you are to those of us who read your blog and save all the time by making us feel we’re not alone in our own brand of “crazy”. All good things to you are much deserved in my opinion. I’m glad that you and Victor were able to help your Meemaw. Hope she enjoys her new digs.

  163. Lovely! There are no superlatives great enough to descibe this wonderfulness! Once again you have restored my faith in humanity. Thanks.

  164. Jenny,

    My father-in-law lives with us and he is as grateful as Meemaw for our hospitality, but the way we look at it, we’re merely repaying the favor. Never forget, lovely lady, you’ve given back to those who have helped elevate your spirit. In between bell calls, family duties and blog posts, I’m reading your book again and I have to say, your willingness to bear your soul is remarkable.

    The fact that it is a wonderfully twisted, deliciously imperfect, remarkably abstract soul is a terrific bonus.

    All the best to Meemaw.

    Be well, my beautiful friend.
    The Hook.

  165. I was recently able to help a friend who is on SSI and who’s Food Stamps don’t start until the 8th. She gets about $700 a month which is pretty pitiful but a roommate helps with the utilities and a small bit of rent. She has been using her own food to keep a small family living behind her going and food boxes have helped from the local food bank. Still, she was getting low on food with too many days to go, too many mouths to feed and laundry to do, etc.

    I bought plenty of groceries for both her and her neighbors and toilet paper, etc, and dropped them off at her place last week. She broke down in tears and I felt like the best guardian angel! What a joy it is to give and to be able to give! I’m happy that I could help my friend and I’m happy that my buying your book helped you help your meemaw. What bliss!!

    Blessed be!

  166. You deserve it! I keep your book on my coffee table and sometimes when the panic attacks are really bad I come home from work at lunch and read a chapter…or a couple of pages and next thing you know I’m laughing and I feel a bit better about facing the rest of the day. Thank you for that!

  167. What a wonderful post (she wrote, teary-eyed)!!! Okay, so I feel a little bit guilty that I bought my copy of your book USED. But, I did buy a brand-new, fresh copy for my co-worker at Christmastime–so that helps.

    The thought that kept running through my head while reading the comments is a bit of a cliche, but I truly believe it. It’s from “It’s a Wonderful Life”: “Each man’s life touches so many other lives….”. I bought your book for selfish entertainment and look! It helped you help Victor’s Grandma. AND, it brought me here to your blog and I found help and kinship from you and the Commenter Tribe for my own issues. So many threads interwoven.

    Isn’t it amazing how the Universe weaves this tapestry!!

  168. I am going to buy another copy of your book so Meemaw can enjoy some young, hot, buff movers moving her stuff into the new digs. I hope you are finding her some hot movers.

  169. I’ve been meaning to buy your book for forever and I finally landed my dream job 2 months ago so I have a book buying budget again. (yay!) So I purchased it today because I loved my grandma so much and miss her (she passed several years ago) and I would have loved to have moved her closer to me like you have MeeMaw. I’m glad I can help you and her in this small way. Keep up the fantastic writing, you rock. 🙂

  170. It is so great to be able to help someone you love so profoundly. You are an example for what all of us should be doing. When something good happens to you….pass it on to someone else and the joy will expand and expand. I’m very happy for you and Victor…and meemaw. Love you!

  171. I’m so happy that you were to be able to do that for someone you care about, Jenny. This is the kind of thing that life is really all about and the ripple affect is something I truly believe in. Paying it forward makes awesome little ripples too. : )

  172. You know, this is beautiful. I bought your book because I love your writing…what a beautiful bonus that maybe a little bit of it helped to make life wonderful for someone else. Your writing…helping someone else, simply beautiful.

  173. Hey, de rien. Write that next book, I’ll buy it, then you can get Hunter S. Thomcat a REAL piano.

    Or a lizard. Whatever he wants.

  174. “The world is like an enormous spider web and if you touch it, however lightly, at any point, the vibration ripples to the remotest perimeter…..”
    All The Kings Men, Robert Penn Warren

  175. Two years ago, we moved my husband’s elderly parents across the country to live near us. My father-in-law, especially, had been having health issues and my mother-in-law (who didn’t drive and has severe arthritis and other health issues) was trying to lift her husband from the floor and drive him to the hospital when he would have problems. They didn’t want to move — they had lived in their tiny town all their life and their church and friends were there, and they didn’t want to be a burden on us or have us run their lives — but we finally convinced them that they would adjust, make new friends, and that we WANTED them to be near and still have as much independence as possible.

    It has been hard at times — on both sides. But I can’t express the peace of mind we’ve all felt that we are only five minutes away if they ever need us. My husband can take them to doctor’s visits and he is their handyman. I love being able to stock their freezer with meals so that we know they are eating healthy and regularly. We go to breakfast together often and are together every holiday now (where we would only see them once every year or so before). I never thought I was the “caretaker” type — but I found it isn’t really a job or obligation — it’s just sharing love.

    I just bought another copy of your book for a Christmas present for a friend of mine (I was tired of trying to tell your stories and not doing them justice). I’m happy to know I helped a teeny tiny bit so that you, Victor, and Meemaw share that same love and peace of mind!

  176. Thank you for sharing that…I’m so happy that Victor still has his meemaw…I miss mine daily.

    Also? You need to get another book out so that we can all buy it and then feel good about ourselves and say, “Yeah. I do charity work.” 🙂
    Kidding! You’re an inspiration, Jenni

  177. Seriously tearing up over here. Thank you for sharing this. Hmm- I suddenly thought of several people who need fun t-shirts from zazzle for their birthdays this year.

  178. This is awesome. I do wonder how Meemaw explains your career to other people, though! 🙂
    Also: Hunter S. Thomcat, I need to be able to slide a piece of paper between you and that invisible lizard. You’re too young for any of that “dirty dancing” stuff.

  179. You’re welcome. But then we’ve all gotten so much joy from you over the past few years that I’m sure I can speak for all of us when I say we thank you in turn.

  180. I bought your book, and I loved it. It brought me to your blog. Which gave me faith in my own blog.

    So you’re welcome, and thank you back atcha.

  181. anytime I feel bad or down, all I have to do is picture Beyonce the giant chicken and I whisper “knock, knock, mother fucker” and when I quite laughing, my mood is definitely improved… just a thought to share with you 🙂

  182. This is the sweetest thing I’ve read online in a while. When it comes to advertising and selling space, I wonder if it’s too much – but reading this post, it makes me think about the ripples. Good things being passed on to another. Good things come from the click through, the purchases, the support. And we get very good things in return. I just adore your blog, and I love that it helped make Victor’s meemaw feel good.

  183. You are such an amazing writer. You deserve everything good that happens to you.

    As I was reading you post one line from the movie “Lay the Favorite” popped into my head “You know that you made it when you can take care of someone else”.

    I guess sometimes we are so used to being taken care of and so busy trying to change that that is difficult to see when you have crossed the bridge. Not only you are independent but can have people depending on you.

  184. You got me choked up and I don’t cry easily. I’m so happy that you and Victor can help his meemaw and bring her some happiness and comfort. Good for you! You’re good peeps.

  185. You are welcome. And thank you for all you’ve brought to my life. Ripples indeed…

  186. My heart is touched by your post.
    Your blog touches my funny bone
    My brain is touched by old age.
    I am touched by a whole lot of things that shouldn’t even be near me. Ew.
    I would not mind being touched by Benedict Cumberbatch though.

  187. I am so happy that you have had the opportunity to see such positive things happen through your blog. It is beautiful that you put it back to your readers. People are seriously cool, aren’t they??

    As I’ve been letting myself be open about my heart / mind, I have found that people will cheer others on, help them to achieve their goals, and just all ’round… be amazing.

    Your blog is fantastic, and there is no question that purely on content and ability, it is fascinating. But above and beyond *anything*… you allow yourself to be vulnerable. Which gives others the opportunity to cheer you on, help you to achieve your goals, and to just be all ’round amazing where we can for you.

  188. This is wonderful, makes my heart dance, but you also have to realize how much you’ve done for all of us. Love you.

  189. What a wonderful warm post. I believe in the ripple effect – and it’s nice that you share how your readers/fans have helped you in more ways than one. Thanks Jenny, for being you!

  190. i think that’s pretty badass that you guys are in the position to be able to support someone who’s been so important in victor’s life. family is important, especially the parts of the family that don’t belittle you and treat you like shit. so it’s excellent that you are able to help her.

    also, jenny, don’t ever feel like you have to defend yourself or your decisions to us. it’s none of our business where the money to help meemaw came from. i appreciate that some of us feel like we know you through your blog and other communications with you, but you have no obligation to disclose info like that to us.

  191. I am happy for MeeMaw, but there is one thing that concerns me, you said you bought her furniture…is there anything stuffed in her apartment besides a couch or chair?

  192. thank you for having the courage to be yourself and to be real. so many of us don’t have that courage…..yet. …. but you show us how to. you are awesome. so glad i found you.

  193. I love you and Victor and Hayley for doing this, and it being the right thing just at the right time.
    I /we are moving my parents this week/month/forever… and it is the hardest task we’ve ever had to take. But what we all see is the comfort and stability that they can have for the next, and maybe last, part of their lives.
    Strength and compassion. I has it.

  194. You continue to entertain and inspire. Blessings to you and Victor and his meemaw, and to all of us. <3

  195. So, I totally had to go and order the kindle version of your book, because I loaned out my hard copy, and just realized that my life would be better if I had access to your book at all times.

    Thank you for the random awesomeness, and for sharing hard things, and for being weird and out there and strange in all the best possible ways. And even in some of the worst ones, and sharing those, too, because then people know they’re not alone.

    And extra hugs to meemaw. (better spread out all the hugs that are coming her way from all the commenters, because otherwise it’s more like strangling.)

  196. This made me happy cry, and today I totally needed it. Thank you, Jenny, for being awesome and for helping me realize that depression lies, and that i am not alone.

  197. Thank you so very much. I needed this so very very much. I have been very ill, and feeling totally useless and worthless. So hearing that I may have done something that helped someone else, even in some small way, is such a huge thing. really and truly. This made me cry. Thank you. I really needed to hear something good for once.

  198. Hooray for Meemaw! *o/*

    We moved my Gram out of her tiny little rathole house 2 years ago and into assisted living. She has a lovely little apartment (seriously, I’d live there if I were single/no kids) and people to help her and check on her. Best thing that ever happened to her. She had to quit smoking after 30+ years of smoking 2 packs a day in order to move in there. She fought us tooth and nail, but now she loves it. Having to help loved ones in that way is so hard, but it would be worse to let them live in drudgery just because they’re too stubborn to think that they can change.

  199. Jenny, I work in a library and rarely buy books, only the ones I fall in love with and need in my house. Right now I am so happy that your book is one I bought, and recommend…to everyone I know and some I don’t know. I know it is an itsy-bitsy fraction of Meemaw’s happiness in her pretty new apartment, but I’m glad you allow us to share it with you. You. are. awesome.

  200. Tearing up here. Your blog causes me to laugh and to cry and to feel normal. Love you for that.

  201. Very glad to hear about good things happening for V’s Meemaw!

    Especially glad I read this today — it’s the 5th anniversary of the day both my parents passed away (dad had a heart attack, and then wasn’t there to wake up mom to give her the insulin she needed). They had a long & full life, and both had a peaceful death, but it’s still a tough day. My kiddos (who were 4 and 8 months old at the time) missed out on really knowing their Grandpa & Grandma, and that’s what makes me extra super sad. So it lights a little candle in my soul to hear about good things happening for someone else’s Grandma.

  202. Oh Jenny, do you realize what you did for MeeMaw? You are letting her RIP. While she’s alive. I don’t know of a better gift than peace of mind.

  203. This is what OUR tribe does…inspire, uplift, help MeeMaws, and giggle and dancing cats. Thanks for sharing the blessings that we are all apart of…continue on and (((HUGS))) to Mee Maw!!!!

  204. Hey there, Jenny.
    I just lost my grandmother this weekend. I’m kind of opposite-worried for my grandfather. I just think this is the nicest thing you could do, and it made me cry at my desk.
    My apologies to Victor, and my support to you both. Give a lot of love to your Meemaw, and I’ll give a lot to my grandfather. I think that’ll balance the feels out.

  205. So glad to be able to help you – you have helped me more than you know these past few years. Every time at work I need a smile I open your blog. I am listening to your book on CD right now in fact.

  206. I’ve never posted, but your post really hit the mark. Thank you for sharing your life.

  207. Thank you! I needed to hear that today, my therapist will be very happy to know you’ve helped with my self esteem! 🙂

  208. Blessings to you, girl! You are such an encouragement to so many people. 🙂 *hugs*

  209. The world would be a better place if there were more people like you in it. Your positivity is inspiring.

  210. Jenny, you are amazing. Hunter is amazing. Your conversations with Victor are amazing. The way your mind works is amazing. The fact you just made me feel like a hero because I bought your amazing book, and a couple items from your amazing store is almost more than I can handle! What a beautiful person you are not only to acknowledge but to openly thank. The world needs more of you.

  211. I’m so glad you were able to help Victor’s memaw. I hope she’s comfy in her nice new apartment =)

  212. Wow. I’m a little drunk right now, but the thought that my buying your incredible book, the book that made me laugh and brought me out of the dumps I was in after a horrific car wreck and inspired me to be creative again, gave you the ability to help your memaw, and that she was so thankful and beautiful about it, makes me cry. Love.

  213. Oh, wow, I helped Meemaw a tiny bit by reading, clicking, and buying your fantastic book! YAY Meemaw!
    (PS when I have grandkids I will be Meemaw. For sure.)

  214. I’m glad all of us were able to help you pay it forward. Honestly you have done a marvelous, and very loving, thing by helping the dear woman. It is rough losing family members, but to combine it with failing health and your world literally crumbling around you…it breaks hearts to just know there are people out there so desperately in need of someone as loving as you!

    I think, perhaps, we should be telling you THANK YOU! I, for one, am so grateful for you.

  215. Literally minutes before I read this, I chose “ripples” as my word for 2014. Now, don’t let your mind wander to “why would someone want ‘nipples’ to be their word for the year??” It’s due to a friend’s sharing with me on the loss of a loved one, and how she wanted to spend this year living in a way that the ripples of her life would matter, as her loved one’s did. And so do I…which is why I thought that would be a perfect “word for the year.”

    And the very next thing I read is you thanking us for the ripple effect we’ve caused in your life. Wow.

    Thank you for your “rippling” in mine.

  216. Your book was given to me by a dear friend of mine when I was pregnant with my second child. It was so hard for me to sleep at night so many times and your book kept me company. I laughed out loud so hard so often that my husband told me I was not allowed to read it in the middle of the night. I have since passed that book on to a friend who dearly needed some uplifting. Thank you for all that you have done for the three of us and thank you for sharing this very special experience!

  217. Aw – this makes me warm and fuzzy inside!

    To think I wanted to advertise on your blogroll to get more hits, and now I’ve helped out Victor’s meemaw as well.

    What you did was truly special and I’m glad to have contributed in a small way.


  218. This totally makes me want to buy crap from you, but, alas, my ass is poor. I do feel inspired to start a blog, however. I have popped in occasionally for a while, and I totally love it that you support other people emotionally with mental illness, while being a awesomely funny mofo. (I am a huge fan of the cat is going to Jesus TONIGHT, he just sneezed a tooth at me post) epic.

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